There is a devaluing of the idea of commitment in our culture that is affecting
couples from pledging their lives to each other. A possible cause for this is
the population has become unhealthily focused on themselves. The individual is
so elevated over his neighbor or community that if anything endangers
personal happiness, it is avoided. Sadly, this has included marriage. However,
science has claimed the opposite. One study
has shown that “married couples enjoy more relationship quality and happiness
than cohabiters.” The modern understanding of personal fulfillment and
relationships has blinded us to the reality that in covenant there is actually
increased happiness. U.S.
Perhaps an analogy can better explain the difference between cohabitation and marriage. If I could hold in hand my life, and then close my hand, I would certainly have and be able to enjoy my life. However, I would be unable to receive anything from others because my hand is closed. I may show at times what is in my hand, but in fear of losing what is mine, I never let go. However, if I was to open my hand and give up my life, only then am I in the position to receive life from another. It is the same regarding cohabitation and marriage. A cohabiter allows a glimpse to their partner, but never fully gives up his life. Only in the true commitment of marriage can one fully and wholeheartedly give and receive life and happiness.